Adultery?

I celebrated my 21st birthday in February and still have yet to feel like a real adult. So, I have to ask myself, when do we really become an adult? A real adult? Is it when we turn 18? 21? When we set out to live by ourselves? Or maybe when we are finally on our feet and really on our own? Is it when we have taken all responsibility for ourselves and our bills?

I myself, have been living on my own since I was 18, but yet I haven't reached that point where I feel as if I am an adult. With that said, I am most certainly not saying that I am childish or that I feel like a child, but I feel as if I am somewhere in between. I'm not a teenager anymore, as a teen we truly are still children no matter how much we fight it and claim to be an adult at the mere age of 14, but I'm not sure I feel as adult as 21 has meant in the past.

I pay my own bills, live with my lovely boyfriend whom I share the responsibility of a wonderful dog with, and I take care of myself, so am I an Adult? Well, who knows, I kind of like this in between place, where you feel all the responsibility but know that you can always call Mom or Dad in case of an emergency, or just to say hi.

But, as of today I think I have taken a step closer towards being an Adult. I took a trip down to the Farmers Market to meet a friend to shop around and then grab some brunch, but she had to cancel and seeing as I was already there I decided to take a gander anyway. Which is nothing to surprising or special. But, as I was browsing I started to get hungry and walked down to the Market Bar to take a look at the menu that I would have been enjoying. And then I had a thought, I don't have to skip this opportunity just because I am alone. So, I walked in there and asked for my table for one. And, you know what, It turned out to be quite a nice little mid-morning meal sitting out in the sun on the patio. I read a magazine, sipped a Mimosa, and nibbled on my omelet, by myself and completely content. As I was sitting there I thought about the episode of Sex & the City (my all time favorite show) where Carrie goes to have a lunch by herself to prove that she didn't need anyone but herself and felt a sense of power. I am an adult and I don't need someone just to enjoy a nice meal on a great afternoon.

So, with that maybe I'm one step closer to feeling like an adult.